How to Love Without Expecting Anything in Return

 
To love someone without expecting anything in return is possibly the hardest love to find and to give, as we all require to receive love back. There may be an occasion where we are forced into the kind of situation where this is required. So how can you be the kind of person who loves without expecting anything back? Here are 3 steps which can guide you along the way. In this article, they are geared towards being in a relationship with a partner, but they can also be used in other situations as well.

Lose your selfishness

It starts with losing our selfishness in what we require from others. It is hard to give to someone love without expecting anything back, but sometimes a situation can deteriorate to such an extent that the other person is incapable of giving anything back to you in return. Maybe their mental condition has taken a turn for the worst, maybe they just find it hard to express love, or maybe they are just not in love with you for some reason, for example. Having an unconditional commitment to someone means loving them despite not ever receiving anything back from them and any selfish desire to receive love needs to be put aside in that situation.

Learn to love yourself

Something that can help in doing this, is to learn to love yourself. When you do achieve this, you don't have to rely on receiving love so much as you fully accept yourself and are content in within your own shell. It's not to say that you don't need to receive love, but you are not as needy as others may be.

Be committed to them

If you truly love a person, resolve to commit to loving them without expecting anything back. Once you have this resolution, try and stick to it as much as possible and give commit to giving them the time and energy they need. It is extremely hard work and can be quite draining, so give yourself space and time to recharge yourself, so to speak. If they are responsive to your commitment, quite often this can turn them around to loving you in return.

Have an outlet

Finally, a good thing to do is to have people you can talk to, who appreciate you for who you are and can help you with your situation. Friends who empathize with you and listen to what you are going through can help immensely...